I believe that our Sweet Spot is where our heads (minds), souls (hearts) and purposes (true essences) intersect powerfully to create the intended outcome of living a fulfilled and joyful life.
How do we know if we are living from our sweet spot or not? I say we know at our core whether we are living in alignment to who we are meant to be on the planet. We know this because our logical voice can tell us (if we listen) and for sure our hearts can be heavier with sensations when we do not. I love the line from Dr. John Demartini’s book Inspired Destiny, “he would rather have the entire world against him than his own soul.” Bottom line is that we don’t have to be rocket scientists of our own internal processes to figure out whether we are living a life that makes us fulfilled or not.
Ask the question to yourself and answer honestly, “Am I full of JOY”? (Notice: I didn’t have you ask “Am I happy”? Happiness can come from a glass of wine or a shopping spree and mostly those states don’t last… Joy as a state does!). I assert again that we know at our core whether we are joyful and fulfilled or whether we are fooling ourselves.
Discovering if we are fooling ourselves and/or what is at our core can certainly be difficult at times and could be a life long pursuit that some of us, whether we know it or not, can try to avoid. Don’t mistake the discovery work as anything other than crucial, and that the process is worth taking on with vigor and courage.
The problem is we don’t get trained as children to listen in or listen for what our authentic expression of Self really is. So a major part of waking up and becoming aligned to a Purpose that is bigger than us is listening for the expression of “us” that is uniquely ours. This process of connecting to our essences, I refer to as the discovery of our purposes in life, and this discovery takes something.
I am a very “want to be” conscious parent and I still fall into the trap of imposing my values on my children. I just can’t help myself sometimes, as it has become a cultural meme to be totally neurotic about the future of our children. With that being said, I do stop the pace of life when I am fully aware and remind myself that the souls of my beautiful children are whole and complete. Outside of being taught the basic safety concerns, they really don’t need my imposed good ideas about who they are at their core. Meditation and “the work” of transformation is the training ground for reminding myself to STOP and be present with exactly who my children are and who they aren’t.
In our unique discovery processes we have one main guiding mechanism that can create clarity of Purpose. Our emotional guiding system can assist us with that. I am not talking about a childish or adolescent emotional guiding system, the “I want, I won’t, I will” conversations, I am talking about the emotional GPS at the core of who we are. I am talking about true emotional intelligence, which Dan Goldman defined in his book Emotional Intelligence as “being able to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior.”
The ability we need to develop as mature adults is to learn how to distinguish emotions from our childhood (which are pre-programmed) from ones that can guide us towards fulfilment. A key indicator (and hint) here is to identify the emotions from our childhood reactionary ones. The preprogrammed reactionary ones generally put us in states of confusion, chaos and sometimes fear. What we need to “train” to do is attune ourselves to and utilize the emotions that can guide us and put us in, or at least closer to, states of FLOW such as where an artist can create from (and as Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi so profoundly describes as reaching flow states in his book called Flow).
That is what we are ALL potentially looking for: the authentic qualities or true essence of SELF where we experience FLOW. Ask yourself now, “What are my qualities that need to be expressed no matter what?” Again be careful about the proclivities of your identity when you answer that question. If you survived your childhood by being funny, or strong, or helpful those are not the qualities that will lead you to your authentic Soulful Purpose. It is the qualities that are present at your moments of experiencing FLOW, or your sweet spot, when you have a sense of clarity about yourself and the world, or in those moments that touch you deeply when you see another person exhibiting those qualities that resonate with you, where you will experience true growth and fulfilment.
It is those moments and qualities that we want to discover, integrate and align with. This is when our Purposes, Souls and Heads intersect – our Sweet Spot!
Jack Canfield says it perfectly…
“It’s not an accident that musicians become musicians and engineers become engineers: it’s what they’re born to do. If you can tune into your purpose and really align with it, setting goals so that your vision is an expression of that purpose, then life flows much more easily.”
Please share your Sweet Spot in the Reply section below (Mine is sharing divine love through discovering and embodying transformation methodologies… aka “doing the work”!)